Conflict

Conflict Can Lead to Better Relationships

Roy and Josh were stuck. They were at loggerheads. Months of chronic low-grade conflict had worn them down. Their best efforts to deal with “the problem” as mature, spiritual men had proven futile. Now the challenge was how to move forward. Settle for an uneasy truce, constant vigilance, and the likelihood of further scrapes? Should

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7 signs “the problem” isn’t the problem

“You two — stop that! Don’t you know it’s impolite to run up and down the aisles in church?” It was clear why that church had a hard time attracting families. Julie (not her real name) made it known that she didn’t like children. But Julie wasn’t the problem. She was only a symptom. Several

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How to rise above conflict

Hostility, sabotage and open conflict. That is the lot of the pastor who leads change. Anyone brave enough to be pastor must possess steel in the spine, ice water in the veins and a steady hand at the helm. The American church needs a pastor “who is less likely to become lost in the anxious

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Break the Sound Barrier: An Essential for Restoring Relationships

  Multiple issues challenge churches, marriage, and interpersonal relationships that experience conflict.  Two are nearly always a part of unresolved conflict.  Both involve the tongue.  Everyone recognizes the first—gossip. For example, in a suicide, a woman wrote, “They said . . .” and never completed her statement before she took her life. The gossip was

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1 powerful tool for building turnaround leadership teams

The Birkman Method™ takes the guesswork out of building a great church staff! The light snapped on when he realized that “grabbing the bull by the horns” threatened his ministry colleague. The colleague saw the light when he realized that standing back, content to let his friend run things, contributed to the problem. Their three

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Turnaround Pastors Stand Apart

His downfall happened when his emotional reserves were exhausted. His sister’s unexpected death left him reeling. She was an esteemed member of the community (she once sought the top leadership post) who had walked with him through decades of difficult ministry. The shock and depression that attend grief struck him, leaving him ill-equipped to deal

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How to resolve church conflict before it starts

Conflict – wouldn’t it be great to avoid it all together? That may not be possible, but there are a few simple steps you can take to resolve it before it starts. But first, you need to look at the issues from their perspective. How they see things You’re asking your church to do something

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10 steps to benefitting from conflict

It’s like ripping off a bandage to bathe the wound in healing sunlight. Unpleasant. Even painful. But the end result is health and restoration. That’s what church conflict is like. Painful but, when treated properly, the path to a healthy church and a stronger, more confident pastor. At least that’s the results of a survey

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